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Therapy

Mikayla Lanoie standing and smiling in front of a large window

A GROUNDED, COMPASSIONATE SPACE TO EXPLORE YOUR SEXUALITY, RELATIONSHIPS, PATTERNS, EMOTIONS, AND DESIRES.

I offer therapy for individuals, couples, and polycules who want support in navigating intimacy, communication, identity, and the deeper layers of their internal world. Therapy is a place to understand yourself, reconnect to your body, and move through what feels stuck or confusing. Some of this work is about sex. Some of it is about anxiety, grief, or a season that has knocked you sideways. Sometimes it's both, because your sexual self and the rest of your life were never separate.

Who I work with

INDIVIDUALS, COUPLES & POLYCULES

INDIVIDUAL THERAPY

People come to individual therapy for all kinds of reasons. Some are about sex and intimacy, some are about the rest of life, and sometimes they turn out to be the same thread.

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  • lack of desire or desire mismatch

  • anxiety, overwhelm, or burnout

  • body disconnection or difficulty with pleasure

  • self-criticism and shaky self-worth

  • shame around fantasies, kink, or identity

  • grief, loss, and hard life transitions

  • past relational or sexual trauma

  • boundaries and people-pleasing

  • feeling stuck or unsure of who you are

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This work helps you understand what is happening inside you, make sense of your patterns, and move toward more clarity, steadiness, and pleasure.

RELATIONSHIP THERAPY

Relationships of all configurations hold complex emotions, dynamics, and desires. Whether you are rebuilding trust, working with mismatched desire, navigating non monogamy or kink, or simply wanting more connection, therapy can help you understand the relational system you are part of. Sex is part of this, and so is everything around it: how you speak to each other, how you repair, and how safe it feels to want something out loud.

We explore:

  • communication blocks and conflict that loops

  • desire differences

  • emotional distancing or shutdown

  • jealousy, comparison, and insecurity

  • healing after hurt

  • attachment patterns and needs for closeness or space

  • agreements, boundaries, and the dynamics of non-monogamy or kink

  • intimacy and pleasure goals

  • stress, parenting, and life transitions


My job is not to choose sides but to support the entire system with clarity, compassion, and steadiness.

Cozy therapy office with a cream couch and warm lamp

What Therapy Feels Like

Therapy is not about performing or being perfect. It is a space where you can be honest about what is happening inside you, without fear of judgment. Some sessions are deep and emotional. Some are clarifying. Some are slow and body-aware. Some are playful. All of them focus on what helps you feel safe, seen, and able to explore.

HOW I WORK

MINDFUL & NERVOUS-SYSTEM ATTUNED

We slow down and notice what's happening in your body in the moment, so you can regulate your nervous system and feel safe in your own experience.

EMOTION-FOCUSED & ATTACHMENT-INFORMED

We explore the emotional patterns and relationship templates that shape your intimacy, communication, and connection with the people who matter to you.

PARTS WORK & INNER RELATING

You have many internal parts. Some protect, some avoid, some long, some play. We learn to listen so they work together rather than against each other.

RELATIONAL & REAL

Our relationship is part of the work. As trust builds, you can bring the parts of you that feel like "too much" and have them met with acceptance.

NARRATIVE & MEANING MAKING

We explore the stories you inherited or created about who you are, what you want, and what you deserve, then rewrite the ones that no longer serve you.

PERSON-CENTRED & COLLABORATIVE

Your voice and boundaries matter. Therapy moves at your pace, with your goals, and in ways that feel aligned with your body and emotional capacity.

Over time

YOU MAY EXPERIENCE

CLARITY ABOUT
YOUR DESIRES

Getting to know what you actually want, without the noise of "should."

LESS SHAME
& SELF-BLAME

Meeting yourself with more compassion and less judgment.

CONNECTION TO
YOUR SEXUAL SELF

Feeling more at home in your desire, your pleasure, and your body.

DEEPER
INTIMACY

Feeling closer, safer, and more seen in your relationships.

MORE SECURE
ATTACHMENT

Building steadier patterns of trust and closeness.

IMPROVED
COMMUNICATION

Saying what you need and hearing each other more clearly.

PLEASURE &
EMBODIED CONFIDENCE

More ease, enjoyment, and confidence in your body.

NERVOUS SYSTEM
REGULATION

Tools to settle, steady, and come back to yourself when things feel big.

BETTER
BOUNDARIES

Knowing your limits and expressing them with care.

WORKING TOGETHER

I offer therapy for individuals, couples, and polycules online throughout Canada, and in person at my office in Winnipeg, Manitoba.

Fees and booking details are available on the FAQ page.

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